I see your point well, from this reply and from your article. I think the confusion is between function and equality. The difference in functions doesn't entail weakness. It is simply men and women have different functions.Such as a woman's mind and psychology, and body can handle the idea that there is a creature inside of her. To men, to have a living creature inside of him is totaly beyond the function of his body, his psychology and his mind.
Men they have their own version of fragility. Men are fragile, for example, when find themselves unable to provide sustenance for the family, including the wife. Even if his wife is earning income. Knowing this psychology, islam allows the woman to keep all her income to herself, while the man maintains the full financial responsibility. You see, men have no problem to be described as fathers, but modern woman is resentful somehow to be described as a mother, as you mentioned above. That is due to the distortion of the functionality of women, specifically speaking, perpetuated by the modern sexual freedom. I strongly believe that this whole conflict between men and women is caused by the sexual freedom. In all societies in the world, the sexual relationship is well reserved by the social norms and morals and given its own sanctity. Only in the West, this sanctity has been obstructed.
In a society where sexual freedom is the norm, the actual loser is the woman, and that is where her fragility is loud and clear. That is why 80% of psychological and mental disorders in women. A proof of that, there is no such definition for a man getting raped. But for women we know it well. Why? Because females sexuality is her power and her ultimate fragility. It is her power for reproduction and the continuity of life, and her fragility, bcs that where she can be totaly broken.
In my opinion, a good starter for women to gain power from men, is to reject sex before marriage. That will let her know if the man is serious or just want e desire release. As a man, driven by morals, i can say with strong conviction, that men are Beasts by nature, and if not self disciplined and checked out by women, he will always behave as a beast.
Informative analytical article. With deep insights. Yet, opens the gate for further discussions and explorations. Yet, allow me to add further points to shed some historical light at the issue of women from my perspective as muslim. A companion of the prophet mohammad asked : Who is worthy more of my care O the prophet of Allah? Answered: your mother. The companion followed up : then who? Prophet answered : your mother. Then who? Answered : your mother. Then the companion asked, then who O the prophet of Allah? The prophet answered : Then your father.
In another saying to prophet : "Kindness to vases" . Vases insinuating to women being soft and fragile like the ceramic vase.
An arab Iraqi poet decades ago said of women : Mothers are schools, when you establish upon strong foundations, you are establishing ahead a generation of beautiful strong roots.
Women are not forgotten. Neither neglected. But it is unfortunate that the pervailing deceptive western culture used women as objects, and therefore most suffering.
Like you said, the more we search for answers, the more questions we end up with🙂 But I wanted to share something I’ve been thinking about. In Islam, and in Indian culture as well, why is it that a girl is often expected to become a mother before she is considered worthy of respect and care? Why isn’t she valued simply for who she is? Why must she "earn" her worth? And why is it assumed that a woman is delicate and why is that a requirement to deserve kindness? As a Palestinian, you know as well as I do as a Sikh, women are anything but fragile.
We play countless roles so effectively that modern men can sometimes feel unsure how to contribute. I’m not saying that women always want to carry all these roles, or that there aren’t women who are weak sometimes. Weakness is a human trait, present in men as well. I'm saying that our softness does not come from weakness. It comes from us being in touch with our emotions and spirituality, and through that connection, we help men connect with their own humanity. It's a strength. But that besides the point. My point is exactly this, that a woman is expected to perform to earn love and respect. And it ends up hurting all of us. What are your thoughts?
Brain storming in action. Will be watching.
I see your point well, from this reply and from your article. I think the confusion is between function and equality. The difference in functions doesn't entail weakness. It is simply men and women have different functions.Such as a woman's mind and psychology, and body can handle the idea that there is a creature inside of her. To men, to have a living creature inside of him is totaly beyond the function of his body, his psychology and his mind.
Men they have their own version of fragility. Men are fragile, for example, when find themselves unable to provide sustenance for the family, including the wife. Even if his wife is earning income. Knowing this psychology, islam allows the woman to keep all her income to herself, while the man maintains the full financial responsibility. You see, men have no problem to be described as fathers, but modern woman is resentful somehow to be described as a mother, as you mentioned above. That is due to the distortion of the functionality of women, specifically speaking, perpetuated by the modern sexual freedom. I strongly believe that this whole conflict between men and women is caused by the sexual freedom. In all societies in the world, the sexual relationship is well reserved by the social norms and morals and given its own sanctity. Only in the West, this sanctity has been obstructed.
In a society where sexual freedom is the norm, the actual loser is the woman, and that is where her fragility is loud and clear. That is why 80% of psychological and mental disorders in women. A proof of that, there is no such definition for a man getting raped. But for women we know it well. Why? Because females sexuality is her power and her ultimate fragility. It is her power for reproduction and the continuity of life, and her fragility, bcs that where she can be totaly broken.
In my opinion, a good starter for women to gain power from men, is to reject sex before marriage. That will let her know if the man is serious or just want e desire release. As a man, driven by morals, i can say with strong conviction, that men are Beasts by nature, and if not self disciplined and checked out by women, he will always behave as a beast.
You just gave me an idea for a new article. Stay tuned!
Informative analytical article. With deep insights. Yet, opens the gate for further discussions and explorations. Yet, allow me to add further points to shed some historical light at the issue of women from my perspective as muslim. A companion of the prophet mohammad asked : Who is worthy more of my care O the prophet of Allah? Answered: your mother. The companion followed up : then who? Prophet answered : your mother. Then who? Answered : your mother. Then the companion asked, then who O the prophet of Allah? The prophet answered : Then your father.
In another saying to prophet : "Kindness to vases" . Vases insinuating to women being soft and fragile like the ceramic vase.
An arab Iraqi poet decades ago said of women : Mothers are schools, when you establish upon strong foundations, you are establishing ahead a generation of beautiful strong roots.
Women are not forgotten. Neither neglected. But it is unfortunate that the pervailing deceptive western culture used women as objects, and therefore most suffering.
I leave it there.
Like you said, the more we search for answers, the more questions we end up with🙂 But I wanted to share something I’ve been thinking about. In Islam, and in Indian culture as well, why is it that a girl is often expected to become a mother before she is considered worthy of respect and care? Why isn’t she valued simply for who she is? Why must she "earn" her worth? And why is it assumed that a woman is delicate and why is that a requirement to deserve kindness? As a Palestinian, you know as well as I do as a Sikh, women are anything but fragile.
We play countless roles so effectively that modern men can sometimes feel unsure how to contribute. I’m not saying that women always want to carry all these roles, or that there aren’t women who are weak sometimes. Weakness is a human trait, present in men as well. I'm saying that our softness does not come from weakness. It comes from us being in touch with our emotions and spirituality, and through that connection, we help men connect with their own humanity. It's a strength. But that besides the point. My point is exactly this, that a woman is expected to perform to earn love and respect. And it ends up hurting all of us. What are your thoughts?